Painful Sex in Men
What Is Painful Sex in Men?
Men who suffer from dyspareunia often deal with mental and physical health concerns, as they struggle to understand why they are experiencing pain during an activity that is supposed to be pleasurable. While some people may think only women suffer from painful intercourse, that is not the case. Men can experience pelvic, genital, or psychological pain that affects their sex life and their partner's enjoyment. Sexually transmitted diseases, physiological deformities, infections, or emotional trauma can trigger discomfort and prevent men from experiencing enjoyable sex. If left untreated, pain during sex in men can hinder relationships and contribute to other chronic health concerns.
Struggling with pain during or after intercourse can trigger anxiety, depression, or isolation for many men. If this issue continues for several months, a healthcare professional can diagnose the source of the problem by conducting an examination and laboratory testing. While this issue is often related to a physiological issue, a man’s sexual partner may not understand why their partner is avoiding sexual intercourse, which can lead to difficulties in relationships for many men. The symptoms, causes, and recovery from pain during sex can all be uncovered by seeking treatment and working with a certified sex therapist who can provide a solution for lasting recovery.
Struggling with pain during or after intercourse can trigger anxiety, depression, or isolation for many men. If this issue continues for several months, a healthcare professional can diagnose the source of the problem by conducting an examination and laboratory testing. While this issue is often related to a physiological issue, a man’s sexual partner may not understand why their partner is avoiding sexual intercourse, which can lead to difficulties in relationships for many men. The symptoms, causes, and recovery from pain during sex can all be uncovered by seeking treatment and working with a certified sex therapist who can provide a solution for lasting recovery.
Symptoms of Pain During Sex
Causes of Pain During Sex
Physical Deformities
Whether men are born with penial deformities or they've suffered an injury that alters appearance, it can cause pain and limit sexual satisfaction. A curved penis, or Peyronie's disease, is a common cause of painful male sex. This is a disorder in which plaque or scar tissue forms beneath the skin of the penis. It can be caused by repeat injury, and creates a bend in the penis during an erection, which often causes pain. Tight foreskin, growths, or lesions may also make sex painful.
Delayed Ejaculation
Men need nerves, brain function, and hormones to achieve ejaculation. Delayed ejaculation can limit sexual function, contributing to painful sex. Men who struggle with mental disorders or chronic health concerns may experience delayed ejaculation, causing pain during and after sex.
Priapism
When men experience arousal, they often get an erection, which dissipates after ejaculation. However, some men can experience prolonged erections that may last for several hours without sexual arousal. Priapism causes a prolonged erection, which can be painful and limit a man's ability to ejaculate or enjoy a sexual experience.
Allergic Reactions
Allergic reactions to vaginal fluids or birth control methods can also cause painful sex in men. Some men can develop allergic reactions to latex condoms, diaphragms, or other lubricants. A healthcare professional can help determine if this is the cause of your pain during sex.
Skin Conditions
If men or their partners have a skin condition on the testicles, penis, anus, or buttocks, it can make sex uncomfortable. Foreskin inflammation, penile cancer, or genital psoriasis can cause sex pain. Engaging in sexual intercourse with a skin condition can increase the problem.
Emotional or Mental Concerns
Emotional stressors like anxiety or depression can contribute to painful sex. Men who have chronic pelvic pain can also experience anxiety or depression, leading to relationship strain and low sex drive. Some medications used to treat mental health issues can alter a man's sex drive or interfere with natural erections, causing painful sex.
Injuries
Men who engage in frequent exercise or sports may encounter genital injuries at some point. Any penile, testicular, or scrotal injury can cause pudendal nerve damage, preventing sexual enjoyment. It's essential to seek immediate treatment if you've suffered from a genital injury to ensure optimal recovery.
Sex Positions
Many sex positions make intercourse enjoyable and satisfying for men and women. However, certain positions can trigger painful sex, especially if one partner has an injury or health condition. It’s important to find a position that is comfortable and satisfying for both partners.
How Can Men Recover From Painful Sex?
Online Sex Education Can Help
Painful sex can occur in men because of stress, underlying health conditions, or relational issues. Nerve issues, genital injury, or infections can also cause pain and prevent men from enjoying sex. These issues can prevent men from initiating sex, affecting their intimate relationships and sexual health. Any man experiencing pain during sex should consult a medical provider. MendEd offers online sexual education courses, including From Sexual Distress to Sexual Satisfaction, to help men learn about the psychological, emotional, and relational dynamics involved in painful sex and understand their needs. This holistic approach will provide the most comprehensive relief.
Restore Your Confidence and Experience Better Sex
At MendEd, we offer science-based sexual education courses that help educate sex therapists and clients on restoring sexual intimacy. This course can help women address their sexual health concerns and receive treatment to pursue a fulfilling sex life, and can be a much-needed addition to working with a physician or general mental health practitioner such as a counselor or psychologist who doesn't specialize in sex therapy. Once women understand the source of their pain, they can begin their healing journey and cultivate a deeper relationship with their partner.
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